Empathy for Self-Gain: Liking Myself

Does this feel familiar? “I often struggle to acknowledge what I like about myself- even just to myself- without a ‘but’, without confirmation from others or without an urge to ‘prove myself’ to others. People are frequently confusing to me.” Continue reading Empathy for Self-Gain: Liking Myself

Link: “Identifying Emotional Abuse Before it Happens”

Trigger Warning: topic of emotional abuse. Quote from linked article: “I can’t reiterate enough how slowly emotional abuse can creep into your life—the first stage of complete adoration, gaslighting, and love-bombing from the abuser happens very quickly, but everything else is oftentimes so subvert you can only recognize just how bad it was once you’ve left.” Continue reading Link: “Identifying Emotional Abuse Before it Happens”

How Can I Tell if I’m Being Valued for Myself? Part 4: Why does it matter?

Final: Why Does it Matter? Is structured as a secret magic trick* for your own mind and brain to make its own sense and conclusions.

*’secret magic trick’= not secret, magic or tricky just a pretty plainly stated outline of how our brains need time to process their own evidence for motivating decisions and understanding- the only trick is in bringing that intuitively obvious fact into consciousness. Continue reading How Can I Tell if I’m Being Valued for Myself? Part 4: Why does it matter?